Or, maybe more pleasantly titled, stoicism in action.

A pleasant picture of my dog (and not diarrhea). Image by author.

As I opened the door to greet my doggy after a long day at work, I was smacked in the face with the repugnant scent of, “something-isn’t-right.” Poop edition. Not ready to investigate, I continued to leash her and take her out for our ritualistic evening walk. If there was poop in that house, then it’d still be there when we returned — but, first, a relaxing walk.

After returning home in what felt like no time at all, I reluctantly unleashed her and peeked around the corner of my kitchen entry only to confirm my fear. But, worse. Not…

How to find meaning and fulfillment in our busy lives

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When we’re busy, time becomes our sole focus.

And when we’re tight on time what’s the first thing that gets reprioritized? The “little things,” of course. Because the “big things” are the main priority and every “little thing” we do only takes away from the time we could have to do “big things.”

Five minutes making the bed, five minutes doing dishes, five minutes interacting with family, five minutes writing a thoughtful note… tick, tick, tick… that’s twenty minutes that could be used on a “big thing.”

And so we carry on rushing, ignoring, reprioritizing, and skipping. Until, eventually, we…

Because failure, like broccoli, is damn good for you.

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“If you never fail, you’re only trying things that are too easy and playing far below your level… If you can’t remember any time in the last six months when you failed, you aren’t trying to do difficult enough things.” ~ Eliezer Yudkowsky, via MoveMe Quotes

Failure sucks

Let’s get that out of the way right from the get go. It would be naive and hypocritical of me to say otherwise. Because I know the feeling of failure… and it sucks.

But, so do most other things in life that are damn good for you. Working out sucks; eating broccoli sucks; disconnecting…

Isn’t it time you start recycling those instead?

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“A man may make mistakes, but he isn’t a failure until he starts blaming someone else.” ~ John Wooden, via MoveMe Quotes

In the delicate moments following a mistake lies a choice that must be made carefully. Either we accept the weight of the mistake and mold the accompanying insight into a useful companion—or we shed ourselves of the weight of the mistake and spinelessly litter those around us with its remnants.

Choosing how to handle a mistake is similar to how we might handle a recyclable as we approach a trash can coupled with a recycling bin.

Mistakes, when…

And there’s no such thing as a life free of pain.

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“Hurt people, hurt people.” ~ Charles Eads, via MoveMe Quotes

Hate doesn’t just manifest itself from nothing. I believe firmly that we are all born pure manifestations of love and it is only from the suffering of life that we learn to hate. When traced honestly and mindfully, hate can usually be found rooted inside a person from potent and painful experiences. As a coping mechanism, hate acts as a way to retaliate back and hurt others the way that person was hurt.

  • People who were mistreated, bullied, abused, are usually the ones who mistreat, bully, and abuse.
  • People who…

You won’t miss them when they’re gone.

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“Lack of boundaries invites lack of respect.” ~ Unknown

Rising in the morning under the pretext that you will not have any negative encounters in the day is to rise disillusioned.

We humans are not the “positive-only” type. We are not machines that can be programmed to give only one type of output in any regard. We are moody, emotional, dramatic, unpredictable, and self-centered. This is our default state and it’s the state we should expect to find people as we encounter them throughout the day, too.

Not every encounter will be with people in this state, of course. It…

You’ll never read the phrase the same again.

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“Be happy, but never satisfied.” ~ Bruce Lee

This is an expression I have heard countless times that, while may be a powerful motivator for constant and never-ending improvement, may also be misleading and dangerous for our mental framework.

Happiness is a state of pleasure or contentment; it’s a state of feeling fulfilled. If I am not content or am clearly unsatisfied—how can I also, simultaneously, be happy? The statement reads like a blaring contradiction to me: “Be happy, but never be happy.”

  • If you are unsatisfied with a meal you ate, how can you be happy with it?
  • If…

Arguing otherwise will only cause you suffering.

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“It is not impermanence that makes us suffer. What makes us suffer is wanting things to be permanent, when they are not.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh, via MoveMe Quotes

When you argue against reality, you will suffer. Impermanence is one of those realities.

There is no negotiation, no way to avoid, and no argument that will change the fact that you and I will both die. The reality of death isn’t what makes us suffer though. …

Focus so we can see the light (and shorten our tunnel).

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“You’ll never see the light at the end of the tunnel if you don’t get in that tunnel.” ~ Matt Roe, via MoveMe Quotes

Most people imagine the light at the end of the tunnel—and the heavenly sights it might reveal. Few venture into the tunnel in pursuit of that light. Fewer make it far enough in to catch a glimpse of its shine. And fewer still make it to the end and realize the heavenly sights that the light reveals.

What might that light reveal? Stability, health, wealth, popularity, freedom, success? Different things to different people. But generally speaking…

It’s only when you accept reality that healing can begin.

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“If you argue against reality you will suffer.” ~ Byron Katie, via MoveMe Quotes

Take a moment to receive that expression. When we talk about reality we are referring to the world or the state of things as they actually exist — not as we wish for them to be.

Reality is the family we were born into. Reality is the face we see in the mirror. Reality is the neighborhood we grew up in as a child. Reality is the people we surround ourselves with on a regular basis. Reality is the current state of the world. …

Matt Hogan

I believe there’s always a way forward in life. Obsessed with self-improvement. Founder of I tweet @matthogan123.

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