And there’s no such thing as a life free of pain.

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“Hurt people, hurt people.” ~ Charles Eads, via MoveMe Quotes

Hate doesn’t just manifest itself from nothing. I believe firmly that we are all born pure manifestations of love and it is only from the suffering of life that we learn to hate. When traced honestly and mindfully, hate can usually be found rooted inside a person from potent and painful experiences. As a coping mechanism, hate acts as a way to retaliate back and hurt others the way that person was hurt.

You won’t miss them when they’re gone.

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“Lack of boundaries invites lack of respect.” ~ Unknown

Rising in the morning under the pretext that you will not have any negative encounters in the day is to rise disillusioned.

We humans are not the “positive-only” type. We are not machines that can be programmed to give only one type of output in any regard. We are moody, emotional, dramatic, unpredictable, and self-centered. This is our default state and it’s the state we should expect to find people as we encounter them throughout the day, too.

Not every encounter will be with people in this state, of course. It…

You’ll never read the phrase the same again.

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“Be happy, but never satisfied.” ~ Bruce Lee

This is an expression I have heard countless times that, while may be a powerful motivator for constant and never-ending improvement, may also be misleading and dangerous for our mental framework.

Happiness is a state of pleasure or contentment; it’s a state of feeling fulfilled. If I am not content or am clearly unsatisfied—how can I also, simultaneously, be happy? The statement reads like a blaring contradiction to me: “Be happy, but never be happy.”

Arguing otherwise will only cause you suffering.

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“It is not impermanence that makes us suffer. What makes us suffer is wanting things to be permanent, when they are not.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh, via MoveMe Quotes

When you argue against reality, you will suffer. Impermanence is one of those realities.

There is no negotiation, no way to avoid, and no argument that will change the fact that you and I will both die. The reality of death isn’t what makes us suffer though. …

Focus so we can see the light (and shorten our tunnel).

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“You’ll never see the light at the end of the tunnel if you don’t get in that tunnel.” ~ Matt Roe, via MoveMe Quotes

Most people imagine the light at the end of the tunnel—and the heavenly sights it might reveal. Few venture into the tunnel in pursuit of that light. Fewer make it far enough in to catch a glimpse of its shine. And fewer still make it to the end and realize the heavenly sights that the light reveals.

What might that light reveal? Stability, health, wealth, popularity, freedom, success? Different things to different people. But generally speaking…

It’s only when you accept reality that healing can begin.

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“If you argue against reality you will suffer.” ~ Byron Katie, via MoveMe Quotes

Take a moment to receive that expression. When we talk about reality we are referring to the world or the state of things as they actually exist — not as we wish for them to be.

Reality is the family we were born into. Reality is the face we see in the mirror. Reality is the neighborhood we grew up in as a child. Reality is the people we surround ourselves with on a regular basis. Reality is the current state of the world. …

And other reasons why falling—not rising—is our default state in life.

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The idea that we’re always falling, like a skydiver making his way down from the sky, feels more fitting to me than the idea that we’re always rising.

The thought of being able to always rise with little to no effort, like a hot-air balloon making its way up to the heavens, to me, is nothing short of a fairy tale. A fairy tale that is being packaged and sold in every which way to gullible consumers everywhere.

Not even the ones that fail miserably.

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Nothing makes you feel like you’ve wasted your time, energy, and effort like failing miserably.

But, what’s the alternative?

To have never created the post? To have never attempted to follow the workout routine? To have never opened the book?

The biggest waste isn’t to have…

There’s a better way.

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“It is better to make many small steps in the right direction than to make a great leap forward only to stumble backward.”

Proverb, via MoveMe Quotes

When it comes to following through with new goals or resolutions, don’t be an all-or-nothing; be an all-or-something.

When you follow an all-or-nothing strategy you’re either all-the-way-in or all-the-way-out.

Either everything you planned is unfolding perfectly and is being executed flawlessly, or it’s not and you place blame, come up with excuses, and quit.

The all-or-something strategy has a less extreme alternative to being all-the-way-in and allows you to at least be some-of-the-way-in.

Watch where you point that thing, would you?

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“Who wants change?!” “We do!”

“Who wants to change?!” *crickets*

Pointing fingers is easy.

Before things can get better, this new law needs to be passed; that new action needs to be taken by these elected officials; those big companies need to change their policies—he/she/they need to make the change that we wish to see in the world!

In other words, it’s everyone else’s problem — we’re just here to demand and wait for the change.

Our fingers tell us a different story.

Every time you point your finger, three point back at you.

Go ahead, try it. Point at…

Matt Hogan

I believe there’s always a way forward in life. Obsessed with self-improvement. Founder of I tweet @matthogan123.

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